How To Get Your Co-Workers and Your Supervisors to Like You
Good relations with your co-workers and your superiors will not only help you but will make work more enjoyable. Every employee wants to be liked by other employees. If you treat people the way they want to be treated, they will like you. Some of us don’t know if what we do is objectionable to others. I am going to give you a list of things that attract other people to you and things they find objectionable. When you move up in the company, you will need all the support you can get.
Everybody enjoys being praised. People look for approval of themselves in others. But you should praise people only when they deserve it. If you praise people when they don’t deserve it, or if you praise too much, you lose your credibility. Don’t exaggerate your praise. Make the praise as warm and sincere as you can.
Don’t Put People Down
Putting down a person can be very damaging to you and the other person’s relationship wit you. People don’t want to feel degraded by being called stupid, crazy, weird, etc. Don’t put down anyone even if they are not present. If you do, the word will get back to them and you will look bad. Always talk positively about people. Even if you don’t like them, still speak highly of them–you will be amazed at what this does. If you must say something bad, don’t say anything at all.
Don’t Be Concerned With Your Interests Only
There is nothing wrong with caring and looking out for yourself. Just don’t make it noticeable to other people. You will be resented by other people if you seem selfish. Make sure others know you look out for them as well yourself.
Share The Credit
When others have helped you accomplish something, share the credit with them. Even if their contribution was not as great as yours, still share the credit with them. You will be surprised
Don’t Ask Others To Do For You What You Won’t Do For Them
If you are unwilling to go out of your way for people, don’t expect them to go out of their way for you. Set the first example–if you help them, they will help you.
Always Show Appreciation
Everyone wants approval and recognition for what they have done. If someone helps you in any way, tell him how much you appreciate his actions. If you don’t, he may not help you again. This is what you should tell people when you show your appreciation: “I really appreciate the way you…”; “Thank you very much for…”; “You are very good at…”: “I really want to tell you how much I appreciated…”; “You were very nice to…” Don’t show too much approval and recognition or it will lose its credibility.
Don’t “Show Up” Others
When you “show up” others you do it at their expense. “Showing up” people in front of others takes away their self-respect. If you are better than others, they will know it–you don’t have to degrade them.
Treat Small Things With Importance
Some things that seem small to you mean a great deal to others. Don’t ignore small problems; help people solve them. Treating small problems with importance shows other people you care.
Care About People
Everybody is concerned about themselves and it is important for them to have someone to care for them. They are touched when you care about them. Helping people cope with life makes people feel that you care about them.
Don’t Criticize A Person In Front Of Others
If you criticise someone in front of others, he will always resent you. It is one of the most degrading things you can do. If you criticize someone, criticize him constructively and privately.
Give People Your Undivided Attention
All people want to fell important. To make a person feel important you must give him your undivided attention when communicating with him. Get rid of all interruptions. Make sure you have good eye contact and that you are not playing with objects.
Be Courteous, Tactful, Polite and Diplomatic
Everyone appreciates people who are courteous,tactful, polite and diplomatic. The best way to learn these qualities is from others. Study someone you would like to be like and learn how he conducts himself. Be Confident
If you don’t have confidence in yourself, others will not have confidence in you, either. People admire and respect confident people. If you show others doubt, they will treat you with doubt. Be sure of yourself and play down your insecurities.